Life Practice Toolkit

# Decision Brief — YYYY-MM-DD

Problem to solve:
Decision deadline:

Known facts and sources:
My interpretation:
Still unknown:
Problem type: missing information / outcome uncertainty / value conflict / identity defence
Non-negotiable values and boundaries:

Option A:
Option B:
Do nothing for now:

Benefits of each option:
Money cost of each option:
Health cost of each option:
Impact on relationships and responsibility:
What is reversible:

Smallest experiment:
Evidence gate and review date:
Cost gate:
Safety gate:
Responsibility gate:
Action when triggered: pause / stop / roll back / escalate for help
What evidence would overturn this choice:

Proposer:
Final decision owner and basis of authority:
Affected people and what they will actually carry:
Matters requiring explicit consent:
Implementer and required resources:
Reviewer and authority to pause:
Whose advice is relevant:
Current decision:
Review date:
Evidence to preserve:

# Attention Audit — YYYY-MM-DD to YYYY-MM-DD

Most important question this week:

| Area | Facts this week | Result | Adjustment next week |
| --- | --- | --- | --- |
| Input: reading, video, meetings, chat | | | |
| Switching: notifications, interruptions, browsing | | | |
| Output: work, decisions, retelling, delivery | | | |
| Relationships: conversations where I was present | | | |
| Body: sleep, movement, energy | | | |

One entrance to close:
One 25–45 minute time box to protect:
What I know before using AI:
What I can still do after closing AI:
One experiment for next week:

# Relationship Conversation Card — YYYY-MM-DD

Relationship and situation:
Who holds more resources, evaluation power, account access, information, or exit cost:
What I want this conversation to accomplish:
Can the other person safely refuse, pause, or leave this conversation?
Do I have explicit consent to record, upload, forward, or publish any material?

Specific facts I observed:
Impact and feelings:
What I actually need:
One concrete request:
Boundary I can enforce:
Which responsibilities are mine, and which are not?
If the conversation becomes unsafe, I will contact:

After the conversation:
- What did the other person actually say?
- Did I really listen?
- What did we explicitly agree to, and what did we not agree to?
- Who owns each action, and when is it due?
- What repair can be observed without requiring forgiveness or reconciliation?
- What remains unresolved?
- When will we review it?

# Recovery Reset — YYYY-MM-DD

Safety issue to protect today:
People I can contact:
High-risk decision to pause:
Today's mode: safety / reduced load / rebuilding
If safety worsens, what will I stop, whom will I contact, and where will I go?

Body:
- Sleep:
- Food:
- Light activity I can tolerate:
- Professional support to consult:

Basic-life floor: food / sleep preparation / necessary care / critical bills and communication
One smallest task today:
Evidence of completion:
Task limit and end time:
Next-day cost to check:
What I am allowed not to do today:
First action after opening the file tomorrow:

Support agreement:
- What a supporter may do:
- What a supporter must not do in my place:
- Signals that require escalation:
- How accounts, documents, and decisions return as risk falls:
- Minimum information needed for the safety task:

Return-to-work gates:
- Safety gate:
- Basic-life gate:
- Time-boxed task gate:
- Boundary communication gate:
- Review date and person authorised to pause:
One variable to increase next:

# Care and Shared Responsibility Card - YYYY-MM-DD

Person to care for or practical task to share:
What the other person says they need (write "unknown" if not yet asked):
One expression of care or gratitude I want to offer:

Specific tasks I can carry myself:
Specific tasks where I need support:
Tasks that can be reduced, postponed, or stopped:
Time, energy, or resources I am currently willing and able to offer:
Time, energy, or resources the other person is willing and able to offer ("unknown" if unconfirmed):
Does the other person want to join this discussion and record?
How can either person refuse, pause, or adjust without blame, retaliation, or having to prove love?
Other people or services I can contact if this person cannot help:
Adult responsibilities that must stay with adults and appropriate supporters:

Next step decided together (do not fill in the other person's role without agreement):
- Action I choose to own and its completion date:
- Action the other person explicitly agrees to own and its completion date:
- What will remain unassigned or needs outside support:
- Information we agree to keep, where to store it, and when to delete it:

Next review date:
Signals to reduce the load or seek help before that date:
At review: is this still voluntary, is the load too heavy, and what needs to change?